Friday, May 24, 2019
 
Opinion
Being Emotional – Right Or Not :- Ashwani Koul Post on face book
 
Living a life full of twists and turns and different scenes, it is very easy to become emotionally attached to scenes happening around you and sometimes become disheartened or sorrowful and sometimes even emotionally joyful. Both are normal emotions. Yes, we thought so! What is wrong with experiencing pain when I watch an accident on the road and what is wrong with becoming emotional and crying, when I watch a moving emotion filled movie. How can you take away these two experiences from life? The world told us they are correct. When we grew up, we often cried, sometimes in sorrow and many a times in joy. Did you go to your best friend’s birthday and become excessively emotional and when your younger brother or sister went down with fever, you sometimes cried seeing his or her pain. Our parents taught us this is what life is all about – mixed shades of emotional joy and emotional sorrow make up the painting of life. In fact, we grew up seeing them doing that in their worldly duties and we thought it was correct. Now! Wait a moment! Do I like sitting on this emotional roller-coaster so regularly and so much? How can I free myself?
We all look at life’s scenes with an attitude of receiving or taking something from life. We rarely think of giving to life’s scenes. Take the example of the sun in nature. The quality of the sun is giving, it never seeks to receive or take. And it is a powerful force of nature. Let’s emerge this virtue in ourselves. That will make me emotionally powerful inside and I will be lighter, happier and more contented in life’s different situations. So from today look to give to life’s different scenes and filling them with the primary qualities of life – peace, love and joy. On the other hand, if we are trying to fill ourselves with these qualities by taking them from people and situations, we will become emotionally weak.
Respect is to recognize and appreciate the unique role of each and every one.
Contemplation: Each one is unique with his own specialties. When you recognize the role of each one, you can understand that he is playing his part accurately. Then you can acknowledge even the smallest contribution and you’ll be free from expectations.
Application: When you find yourself having negative thoughts towards any one, make the practice of looking at one specialty in that person and relate to it. Also tell yourself that without the role of this particular person the drama would not be complete.
Continuing from yesterday’s message, emotional power comes from giving and emotional weakness, comes when our primary purpose is to take. When we absorb a lot from life’s scenes, circumstances and also from people’s minds, words and their actions, sometimes we feel it is an empowering experience. But remember, if you absorb the good, you will also absorb the bad because that is what your mindset is. It is like the vacuum cleaner. You clean your carpet with it. It absorbs the dust and if your ring was lying on the carpet, it would suck in that too. Also, giving is receiving. Every positive emotion we give, it is increasing inside us at the same time, as it flows from within us to everyone and everything around us.
Based on this principle, when we look to take from a positive scene, we will feel emotionally joyful and when we are taking from a negative scene, we feel emotionally sorrowful. The more we look to make our emotional world dependent on the external situations or stimulus, the more our responses are under their influence. Being over emotional, whether in joy or in sorrow, is a sign of dependency. That does not mean we become cold and boring and do not enjoy life’s beautiful moments, which it has to offer. Also, we love everyone and are full of sympathy where required. But we are a little detached while viewing life. A spectator in a sports event sits on an emotional roller coaster watching his favorite team or player perform, sometimes over happy and sometimes unhappy. A spectator with a spiritual consciousness does not get overawed by his team’s or player’s performance. He enjoys the victorious moments and views the moments of failure, both without getting moved emotionally. This is not boring, but more empowering.
You get respect from others when you have respect for yourself.
Contemplation: Every human being has innate worth which is pure and virtuous. Faith in the self brings out the potential within and this brings respect for the self. Self-respect makes you self-reliant and makes others respect you.
Application: In order to get respect from others, increase your own self-respect. For this find something unique in yourself and each morning remind yourself of this specialty. Also make sure you work at least once with this specialty throughout the day.In Spiritual Service,
 
 
 
 
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